7 Common Lies You Might Want to Stop Telling Yourself
We lie to ourselves each day. We tell ourselves that weâre going to start eating perfectly on Monday. Weâre going to start a blog on January 1st. We blame our parents for our current financial mess even though we havenât lived with our parents for the last 20 years.
Maybe we believe if we only had a swimming pool, weâd finally be happy, and that happiness would last forever.
These are all lies that we tell ourselves.
The lies you tell yourself are the most damaging lies of all:
- Iâll be able to pay it off next month, so itâs okay if I buy it now. Using debt to purchase anything is a serious matter. Itâs easy to convince yourself that youâll brown-bag your lunch for the next month, or that you wonât go out for 30 days. However, we rarely seem to stick to these promises.
- Debt has a tremendous potential to snowball. Avoid using debt as much as possible.
- Iâll start on Monday. Whether itâs a diet, a budget, an exercise plan, or any other undertaking, itâs a lie to tell yourself that youâll start on Monday. Of course, Monday might not be your day of choice. Some people really prefer the first of the month or the first of the year.
- If itâs worth doing at all, itâs worth starting right now.
- Itâs all my parentsâ fault. Thereâs no doubt that some parents are lousy at the job of parenting. But youâve had plenty of opportunities to put your life back on track. Putting the blame for your present on the past limits your future. There is plenty you can do today to make your life better.
- If I just had _____, everything would be perfect. Once you have the money, body, job, or whatever else it is you think you need to have a âperfectâ life, youâll likely find something else that you just have to have. Thereâs always another thing waiting behind the thing you currently want.
- Iâm different from everyone else. A lot of people believe thereâs something wrong with them. And itâs not just something wrong with them, itâs something uniquely wrong with them.
- Everyone is unique, but the similarities between people are far greater than the differences. Youâre not that different, and itâs unlikely thereâs anything wrong with you that canât be managed.
- Itâs too late for me. For some things, it might be too late. But itâs not too late for a lot of things. Waiting longer than you should have can make a lot of things less convenient, but thatâs not the same as being too late. It just means youâre going to have to work harder or endure more inconvenience.
- Thereâs a penalty for waiting, but itâs rarely insurmountable.
- The timing isnât right. The timing is never right, and itâs never going to be right. Do it now while you can. Each day that you wait is another day of delay. Youâre not going to live forever, and life never follows your plans anyway. Just do it.
We lie to ourselves to make us feel better. Telling ourselves that weâll start losing weight on the 1st of the month puts our minds at ease and allows us to eat poorly until that start date. We blame others for our challenges, so we can convince ourselves that it isnât our fault.
The lies you tell yourself make you your own worst enemy and stop you from making progress in your life. Be honest with yourself and give yourself a chance.